.: is your friend a good friend?

Jan 19, 2010

is your friend a good friend?

what is friendship?

A robust relationship that exists between Two Individuals irrespective of localities,Genders,Religions, economical backgrounds is Termed As friendship.......

what is the primary aspect which should be kept in mind to make a friend a good friend?

Well, according to my perception,the answer to the given phrase is 'Avoiding Hypocrisy'........yes,That's True Indeed!

If we try to Keep Hypocrisy Away then we may have innumerable good friends....

for example "if i go to a friend and say that i got 100 out of 100 in mathematics "then he would reply 'oh!That's great congrats 'but his inner feelings may be different!he may feel why the damn hell this bloody moron got those marks?why din't i?........

This is a kind of sensitive situation where the hypocritical nature comes into vogue .......

The main reason for having hypocritical nature between friends is having 'jealous' ......

in simple words whats the alternative for jealousy?the answer is having 'competitive spirit"......

a friend with jealousy thinks 'why din't i and why did he?'

but a friend with competitive spirit thinks "why can't i,when he did?' hiding the things is termed as hypocrisy....

here are few interesting quotes.........

"How clever you are, my dear! You never mean a single word you say."

All humans are hypocrites; the biggest hypocrite of all is the one who claims to negate that he is an hypocrite.

these are not IDS(internationally developed standards) but these are my perceptions for making a friend a good friend....

if any of these qualities are violated, either of two friends should adjust accordingly with respect to the other with out expecting any thing in return.......

hence adjustment is also a key tool for satisfying my post...............

i have found few friends who are good&am searching for few.

hope u liked it.......

did u find the same qualities in your friends?

comments on this are appreciable........

8 comments:

lavs....... said...: wat attracted me so much in dis article is d 8th para............ supb work vindhu...........hope ur blog wil bring many ppl together frm strangers to friends.; January 19, 2010 at 11:06 PM
R Kan said...: Hi,
I went through your new blog.
It is amazing to see that you have indeed made good strides in your writing.
Dont you have any enemies who later become good friends....is friendsship limited or expansive?
Now quote, elaborate and emphasis by way of examples and incidents from your knoweldge or real life stories from great men/ women(also).It will be superb!

Wish u happy time blogging!; January 20, 2010 at 3:55 AM
Vindhya Ameti said...: thanks raghav....its great to see you on my blog!
i will update your topic which you have proposed!; January 20, 2010 at 5:54 AM
Achan Sandeep said...: hello vindhya...

sorry to say that ur article is really appreciable but instead of friendship or meaning for it, u have stressed more on Hypocrisy. Ur article would be highlited if u named it as Avoiding Hypocrisy.
if u really want to express about friendship
state some incident in a attractive manner rather than stressing on particular thing or Hypocrisy.
U just present ur exact feelings which really states or explains the true n fair meaning of friendship.
Hope u will understand me.
Regards,
sandeep.; January 20, 2010 at 11:51 PM
Vindhya Ameti said...: hi sandeep,
thanks for your comment.

good friendship requires many things.for me,avoiding hypocrisy will be the primary one to make the friendship a good one.Thats the reason,i titled it as frienship rather than hypocrisy in frienship.; January 21, 2010 at 4:12 AM
Anonymous said...: hey I have read your blog..Interesting, it is..:-); January 22, 2010 at 10:26 PM
Anonymous said...: write some articles or stories about your college, am waiting to hear them..:-); January 22, 2010 at 10:28 PM
Vindhya Ameti said...: hi rasagnya,
its nice to share your comment on my blog.
thank you so much!; January 23, 2010 at 2:35 AM

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