There goes again. Your "sweet boyfriend" is talking to another hot female. They're laughing together, looking perfectly happy in each other's company. Then, you see her reach over and squeeze his arm affectionately. That's it. You lose your controls and slap the girl silly....
It's normal for women to feel jealous every now and then, but when it gets out of control, and you turn into a hideous green-eyed monster, that's when it becomes frightening. Jealousy is a sign that you don't trust your partner as much as you should. It doesn't just wreck your self-confidence, but it can also destroy your perfect relationship. Even the sweetest and most loyal partner can be driven away by constant jealousy attacks.
You don't have to become a jealous, overbearing monster all the time. There are ways to get rid of this nasty emotion. You just need to remember several important tips to banish that green monster forever.
Here are some tips to help you overcome jealous
Stop Comparing yourself to persons in same level to you.
It's common for people to compare themselves to others, and that includes you. You always manage to see what others have that you don't.
You keep thinking that he loved her more than he loves you, and you'll never be the kind of woman she is. Soon, a false sense of self-worth builds up, and you feel yourself becoming more and more insecure. Before you know it, you're throwing snide, jealous remarks at your partner.
Remember, everyone is different and unique. Don't think about things you're missing, but what you do have. You've got your own good and bad qualities, accomplishments, charms and intelligence. You've got exemplary attributes no one (not even the other person you're jealous over) has.
Know The Facts
It's very important to keep an open communication with your partner, to keep your relationship strong. When you start feeling doubt, don't be afraid to ask questions. It's your right to hear it straight from his mouth, so you'll feel better. Know the facts. Of course, it doesn't mean you have to grill your partner with questions or start spying or snooping around. Just ask questions in a calm manner, and let him ask his own questions too. You'll both realize that knowing everything about situations helps squash jealousy.
Draw The Line
Your boyfriend's phone book is filled with names and numbers of women friends you don't know. He's very friendly to other girls while you're out clubbing, even when you're with him. He also talks and goes to lunch with his female coworker. All of these are done with friendly intentions, but soon enough, they start to bug you, and you become suspicious. Eventually, the jealous feelings all burst out.Think Positive
Jealousy is annoying, but it might be able to have a positive effect on you. All you have to do is look at the negative emotions jealousy brings and look at it in a positive light. Let it motivate you.
It's not bad to feel jealous once in a while, but when this annoying feeling often overtakes you, then it's time you do something about it, before you completely lose your spirit or drive your partner away. Try these tactics and suppress the green-eyed monster within you. Soon, you'll feel all the jealous emotions leaving, and you can have a happy and peaceful relationship with your sweetheart and yourself.
